Need a Guys POV please :)?

He uses you when he needs you - I personally don't understand how people can 'spend time together and you know...', and not make it official like a relationship, at least after a certain period of time and well; if he's hot and cold and you aren't in a relationship then he has no need to be emotionally close to you; he comes and gets what he wants by any means (guys are good at that too, not just girls) - and then he keeps you at arms length. Have some self-respect and either ask him to date you or lose the fringe benefits.