HELP, not sure what loves is any more?

I am mad I work, 60 hrs a wk. My husband layed off for 1 1/2 yr, not his fault,it i really hard out there. But we fight, I come home and nothing is cleaned Dishes wait till saturday for me to do, lets not talk about the bathroom. I am not asking for a maid,but help. Now when he knows hi family js coming over, he'll run through house to clean. We don't see eye to eye about his son (12 yrs old) adhd.who does no wrong. Don't get me wrong he is a good kid, bu this dad doesn't correct him example ( his son told me my food tasted like dog food and his dad said I should understand that is part of his disorder, I don't know) WE really argue over everything, I have asked him to go to counseling, but he no cause I wouldn't listen to the counselor, Don't know how I feel anymore. I miss him when I am away, but the moment we are under same roof,the roof blows off?