Her husband says she looks repulsive to him.?

my friend(really my best friend) called me yesterday crying. she always comes to me when she needs help. this time i do not know what to tell her. i am hoping for someone with the same experiences to answer. my friend called me in a difficult time. her father was having a quadruple byp yesterday evening. she was upset about this already and to add on top of it had been having relationship troubles. she had a baby 8 months ago. she was a bigger lady when they got married 2 years ago. weighing about 240. after the baby she weighed 275. she decided to go the the gym where she lost 45 pounds,and was getting her confidence back. due to the costs she had to quit but has managed to keep the weight off. she and her husband after the baby had been having problems in the bedroom. she told him yesterday in her words" why does our life suck? i never want to sleep with you again." uh yeah really harsh. and finally she got an answer. he said i cant deal with your weight. especially after the baby you are so overweight ,i just dont feel attracted to you, your body does not turn me on at all. Woah ! i was silent on the phone as i listened to all of this. she began crying to me and said she missed an old flame who had always accepted her as she was and made her feel confident in herself, he moved away and lost contact after telling her his family in another country did not want him to marry as he was still young. she said this is really bad for me to think about him when i am married to someone else. "i just feel like a big damn dissappointment to him after having the baby." he wants more children in teh future but she doesnt know if she could deal with the weight she would put on knowing he would be repulsed by her image. please someone help me out, i do not know what to say to her. if it helps her husband is very skinny and can eat like a starved hyena and wont gain a pound.so his weight cant be commented on like alot of husbands here who complain about their wives. she said"maybe he doesnt love me as much as he thinks he does,if he really did, he would appriciate the fact that i had his child and my body wouldnt matter because his love would be stronger." i asked her if she does atleast try to dress up,put makeup and perfum etc. She said she does ,but she doesnt feel pretty. how can you feel pretty when someone always puts you down and demolishes your confidence? this is not their only issue. he will also complain each and every time she cooks him food. saying its too salty,not enough salt,not enough spices,and last weel believe it or not said exaclty" why did you put so much margerine in the mashed potatoes, it makes them too creamy and too filling" i was like um ..thats sounds like the perfect mashed potatoes to me. but you get the point. same thing for cleaning .it is never good enough. please anyone tell me what i can tell her. i suggested therapy but she said he would never go. i need opinions asap. i will email them to her if i get good ones.